Some single parent answers are different – more cautions – but encouraging your kids to believe is important!

Don’t care what anyone says, but some answers to (your kids) questions are different when you happen to be a single parent, for a number of reasons – well that’s what I’ve found anyway.

Important questions should be pondered more, possible repercussions carefully considered. Even questions such as “Does Santa Claus really exist – if he really exists does he really have a fluffy white beard?” Now why would you need to concern yourself about questions such as this?  After all we don’t want to be paranoid and cause our children to become over weary of people.

Encouraging them to be careful about speaking to strangers is one thing but causing them to be over fearful of people is another thing, isn’t it?

Now my little boy is only five and is certainly not allowed out, or left, on his own. But one day he may very well be on his own, things happen so it’s my job to advise him – and it must be the truth, mustn’t it. SO when he asked me the other day about Santa Claus I wondered to myself “Not now, but when will I need to tell him the truth – one, two or three years’ time?” Even then he’ll be very young but he is smart (well I think so).

What I never ever want to do is ‘take away the magic’ for him, for Alphie. I think Alphie, when the times comes will choose to believe – he will choose the joy, mystery and charms of childhood and not completely adopt my fear for him – which is good.

What I can say is that being the only Elf available leaves you feeling very responsible. Don’t make things too hard for yourself, ie ask a relative, a friend or even a neighbour to give you a hand. What I mean is get them to mind your child while you get and wrap the presents and you return the favour.

In other words be realistic about what absolutely must be done before Christmas morning (for the maximum affect for your kid/s) and what you can let slide a little.

Establish your own personal family Christmas Tradition. It could be everyone pitching in to help make a part of the meal, it could be reading stories about Christmas (possibly some from your own childhood) – there are heaps of ideas.

One tradition I have always personally enjoyed is watching Christmas movies, particularly some old classic ones. For example that fabulous golden oldie, “Miracle on 34th Street”! “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer” is another or a great animated cartoon one is “Frosty the Snowman”.

Be sure you make lists of what your Christmas plans are and one great thing – Reach out to others – especially those less fortunate or on their own. Maybe even visit a nursing home. You and your kids will both benefit from that one.